Let's face it. We all make mistakes. When we love someone we see
them as perfect. Well, guess what, they are not perfect and neither are you.
Sometimes your spouse is going to do something that causes you to be hurt, mad,
annoyed, etc. Part of truly loving someone is being able to love them despite
their faults. When you truly love them you are able to see the best in them and
in their intentions. You are able to forgive them.
President James E. Faust
shared a beautiful talk
in April 2007 titled “The Healing Power of Forgiveness.”
In this talk he shares these words:
“Forgiveness is freeing up
and putting to better use the energy once consumed by holding grudges,
harboring resentments, and nursing unhealed wounds.”
He also shares this touching
experience of true forgiveness:
“A 32-year-old milk truck
driver lived with his family in their Nickel Mines community. He was not Amish,
but his pickup route took him to many Amish dairy farms, where he became known
as the quiet milkman. Last October he suddenly lost all reason and control. In
his tormented mind he blamed God for the death of his first child and some
unsubstantiated memories. He stormed into the Amish school without any
provocation, released the boys and adults, and tied up the 10 girls. He shot
the girls, killing five and wounding five. Then he took his own life.
This shocking violence caused
great anguish among the Amish but no anger. There was hurt but no hate. Their
forgiveness was immediate. Collectively they began to reach out to the
milkman’s suffering family. As the milkman’s family gathered in his home the
day after the shootings, an Amish neighbor came over, wrapped his arms around
the father of the dead gunman, and said, “We will forgive you.”1 Amish leaders
visited the milkman’s wife and children to extend their sympathy, their
forgiveness, their help, and their love. About half of the mourners at the
milkman’s funeral were Amish. In turn, the Amish invited the milkman’s family
to attend the funeral services of the girls who had been killed. A remarkable
peace settled on the Amish as their faith sustained them during this crisis”
(Faust, 2007).
The power of love and
forgiveness brought peace to this community during a time that could have
easily been full of hatred and anger.
In my personal life, I have experienced
forgiveness many times with Nate. I have a tendency to mess up and say dumb
things. I cannot even think of a specific example because I have done it so
much. Sometimes I have no idea why Nate chooses to put up with me. But, no
matter how many times I mess up or do something crazy, Nate forgives me and
tells me he loves me many more times over. True love is unconditional and does
not hold onto grudges or negative feelings. The healing power of forgiveness is
not just for the person who is the recipient of the wrong doing, it is also for
the person who has messed up. They need your forgiveness in order to heal and
move on. This can be for big things like the Amish community or small things like
I talked about in my own relationship.
Allow the healing power of
forgiveness to come into your marriage. Pray for help in seeing your spouse as
Heavenly Father sees them. Choose to replace negative feelings with feelings of
love and forgiveness. In return, your spouse will do the same for you. A mutual
feeling of unconditional love will enter into your relationship and bring you
more joy than you can imagine.
References
Faust, J. E. (2007, April). The Healing Power of Forgiveness.
Retrieved from The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter Day Saints:
https://www.lds.org/general-conference/2007/04/the-healing-power-of-forgiveness?lang=eng
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